We all have a need to be loved. This is one of the fundamental needs that each human being shares. What happens when we feel unloved? When we feel unloved, and this feeling is reinforced over time, we can find ourselves in a very lonely place. The feeling of not being loved can lead to the making of negative choices. When we feel unloved we may sabotage our relationships. When we feel unloved we may act and behave in ways that are immature or inappropriate. When we feel unloved and then “act out”, and doings so can cause us to feel even worse. It is a very negative spiral. I had a conversation with a man who explained that when he felt unloved he would spiral into negative patterns and negative behaviours. He struggled with addiction and found that his life had become unmanageable at certain times in his life. Furthermore he found that this feeling of being unloved seemed to start a negative spiral. Something negative would happen and he would respond by feeling that he was not loved. While in that negative place he would feed his addiction in an attempt to feel better, and act inappropriately. This…
