A great deal has been written and discussed about emotional intelligence (EQ).

According to research there are a number or reasons why it is good to have high EQ.

These people who have a high EQ have….

1. Far less depression or anxiety in their lives.
2. Greater ability to form relationships.
3. Greater ability to maintain long term relationships.
4. Ability to build rapid rapport.
5. Ability to show empathy, not just sympathy.
6. Ability to read a situation, connect with others, and lead them in a positive way.
7. Ability to actually listen and become absorbed in the world of another.
8. Ability to take control of the meanings of life in an empowering way.
9. Ability to take personal responsibility for all thoughts and feelings.
10. High personal individual accountability.

Finally a person with high EQ is able to access more positive emotions and fill their lives with joy and happiness, wealth and success.  Emotional intelligent people have the capacity to move emotions ‘at will’ to a heightened positive state.  Emotional flexibility can be learned and practiced. As we consider the benefit of emotional mastery, all of us could find compelling reasons to increase our EQ.

Many years ago when I was fresh out of school I was working with a young man who was slow to get going in the morning, during the day and at the end of the day.  We lived in the same house and worked together also as a partnership.  It was a constant struggle for me to keep him motivated and positive.  I worked tirelessly to lift, to boost and to generate within him desire to work and grow.  We were together for two months and while it was challenging I simply just kept moving, and was delighted that he was right there with me.  The funny thing was that he looked tired even before the day began.  Several months later I discovered that he was being put on heavy depression medication.  I recall thinking that I did not even know he was depressed, neither did I even know what depression was. I had no personal frame of reference for depression.

I then was married to a woman for 7 years who was later diagnosed with clinical depression.  Keeping busy and positive during this time was very difficult.  I have always believed that as we kept our mind focused in a positive way, the attitudes and subsequent emotions would also be positive.  This was true for the most part however over time I allowed myself to be affected in a negative way.  At this time I felt like my emotions were controlling me.  I was a slave to my emotions, and they seemed to have all power.  Along with my co-dependency and other problems I was displaying limited EQ.  The divorce was a low point and from there I decided that I needed to rebuild an improved version of myself.

The trouble is that I was my own guide.  Thankfully I married a woman with very high EQ.  She has helped and taught me a great deal.  Then I attended many seminars and meetings wanting to expand myself, overcome challenges and move toward success.  I always had this dream of becoming a seminar leader, yet I felt that there were still too many floors in my character.  I also had the belief that I was not ready and that I did not know enough.

That changed in 2015 when I experience a massive leap forward, and suddenly I could see things that I had never seen before.  I took ownership of my weaknesses and failures.  My personal individual responsibility levels shot upwards, and I began to understand that all of my behaviours of the past were state dependent.  These negative, selfish and egocentric behaviours were related directly to the emotions which ran my life.  I also learned that over my lifetime I had developed patterns and strategies for emotionally dealing with the influences of my life.  These strategies and patters have become visible to me, and I can now see how to help myself, and others in the world around me.

That understanding has led me forward into a life of contribution.  I just want to help others.  When people now ask me what I do.  I tell them I get others excited.

How do we grow our emotional intelligence?  Not by reading about it.  Not by watching a movie about it.  Not by asking other people about it.  There is only one way.  The learning must be experiential.  This is one reason why  AccessWorldSeminars is so powerful.  Words cannot explain the experience due to the level of unconscious learning.  Only the experience itself can possibly explain the experience.

It is a very strange thing to me that life feels so different.  There has been an incredible deepening of emotion, love and connection within myself and the world around me.  I invite you to experience the next seminar.