I remember once thinking or believing that all relationships in this world are dysfunctional. Yet I realised that I had not yet met every couple or family in this world, neither is it possible to do. Yet this idea that every relationship is dysfunctional is a thought that has put me at ease as I consider the dysfunctions that do and have existed in my family. 1/ Acknowledge the Dysfunction. My experience is th...
Contacted a friend today and learned that something incredible has happened in his life. He in in the process of purchasing a home for him and his small family. To me this was great news. He sounded very happy and excited about this new project. It sounded like he was making real progress in his life. He told me that he had been eating more healthily and had made changes in many areas of his life. What added more to my su...
I have been thinking a lot about values over the last couple of days. Values are simply judgements about something. Judgements are split into two categories. The first is made up of things that you may like. The second is made of things you may dislike. The reasons or judgments about why you like or dislike that thing is a key in determining your set of values. For example; You may like exercise. You may dislike ru...
I attended a meeting on leadership principles. In this meeting I was asked to come up to the front of the room with 2 other people. While at the front of the room two of us were asked to grab the arms of the third person, one on one side and the second on the other. I obediently grabbed onto the left arm of this man. We were then asked to pull which we did. Pointing to the man in the middle the speaker made this point. He...
I thought that I would take the time to write a short blog about the six human needs. These needs are common to all human beings who enjoy the human experience. While these needs relate to every person, they may be sequenced and ordered differently according to the values and beliefs of each individual. The first human need is the need for certainty. This need grows out of the desire to know what we know. For exampl...
There is a genuine excitement that occurs when something magical happens. These are the times that I genuinely lose myself in the excitement and the complete euphoria of the moment is overwhelming. These moments do not happen every time that I make a conscious effort to get excited. I have found that I now have the capacity to create excitement whenever I choose. I did an experiment where I was able to hold myself at the peak lev...
There are people in the world who revel in other people’s misery. They constantly laugh about those in hardship, or those who are a worse position than themselves. Kind words of encouragement do not escape their lips, rather they are critical and happy that another is on lower ground than they themselves appear to be. Am I happy when I find someone in hardship? Absolutely. I get excited. In fact the more problems you have the mo...
I found this acronym for Focus whilst surfing the internet. FOCUS could stand for “Follow on Course Until Successful”. Brian Tracey once stated that if you could focus all of your attention on a watch face without diversion or distraction for an entire minute, you could accomplish anything you want in life”. When I think of focus I am reminded of the laser beam. The word LASER is also an acronym that stands for Light ...
There are two major inhibitors to creating change in our lives. They are Time and Money. Let us consider both of these inhibitors. The first inhibitor is time. Each of us the same amount of time in our day. We are all blessed with the same 24 hour period each day that we must decide how to spend. The reason ‘time’ and ‘spend’ can be used in the same sentence is that time is a resource much like money. Some hold the belie...
I was life coaching a woman who was allowing her husband to continually push her buttons. She was separated and soon to be divorced. This woman had explained to me that just seeing her husband sent her into a tail spin. I had her imagine that he was in front of her now. Her whole body changed. The look on her face changed. Her shoulders drooped, the corners of her mouth pulled toward the ground and she almost looked as though sh...
