The struggles of ADDICTION I was working with a man who struggled to separate Love from Sex. He described that both seemed to him to be one and the same. He described that when he had sex he felt loved. When he was rejected sexually, he felt unloved and/or unlovable. Therefore he had a rule in his life that sex equalled love. One of the fundamental needs that we have as human beings is the need to be loved. This le...
We all have a need to be loved. This is one of the fundamental needs that each human being shares. What happens when we feel unloved? When we feel unloved, and this feeling is reinforced over time, we can find ourselves in a very lonely place. The feeling of not being loved can lead to the making of negative choices. When we feel unloved we may sabotage our relationships. When we feel unloved we may act and behave in ways that ...
I met a man in his mid-20’s who had survived a terrifying horror in his life. Firstly he told me about a severe football injury. He had experience temporary paralysis. He explained that recover took about 6 years, and that he still struggled to carry heavy objects. He found it difficult to function and yet appeared healthy. As we were speaking I felt a feeling in my body that indicated that he and I were in rapport. He and I wer...
Start believing in yourself! We will all encounter set backs and failures. Resistance serves a grand purpose. I continually think about the inspirational scene in the movie Rocky 6. Rocky has a conversation with his adult son in which Rocky explains that somewhere along the way his son decided to let others put a finger in his face and tell him he was no good. Rock explained that nothing will hit harder than life. That life will drop...
Have you ever had someone have a breakdown in front of you? It happened to me this week. I was with a woman in her early 20’s and she had been given some terrible news. I helped her to understand the news and what it meant for her, and how it would affect her life over the next several days. She did not take the news well and showed this by her body language. She began to weep and cry and say “What. What. That can’t be right. ...
The story teller informs us that we are to be like salt and light. Salt adds flavour to food, and it a key ingredient to ensure food tastes great. Salt also preserves food and makes the food last. If there is too much salt or no salt, food may be inedible. To be like salt in the world would therefore mean to allow ourselves to live overtly in that we enable others to learn of our lives, hopes and dreams. Just as salt ads flavour a...
Scientists’ look out into the universe and have been baffled by the mystery and expanse of space. High powered telescopes continue to evolve and space appears to be unlimited. Each time scientists reach the limits of the telescopic range, the question is posed, “What is beyond that”. It would seem that space is infinite. If there was an end or limit, what is on the other side of the outer limits? Consider one of the estimated 86 ...
Over the last 6 weeks I have taken time in a regular routine to think about and be grateful for what I have in my life. This one practice has assisted in my appreciation of not only the good things that happen in my life, but the challenges that I have faced also. The regular morning routine that I have chosen begins with a breathing exercise. Following that I do a visualisation exercise. I then give a prayer of gratitude. As I st...
I spoke with a young woman who has suffered Anxiety and Depression. This may be circumstantial due to her current situation. Things will be changing for her in the near future and therefore we had a conversation about that future. First I asked if she could see a vision of the future. She responded that she could see it, and described herself in a car with friends singing away as loud as she could. They were all laughing and having ...
Tonight I concluded the fifth life coaching session with a client. Whilst he had made good progress, I was still striving to see a transformation occur in him. The work that I am interested in, is making changes at the unconscious level. We had communicated about and he had a good understanding at the conscious level yet he was boxed in by the boundary conditions of his own thinking. He was unable to apply the skills because the issu...
