I would like to share an analogy about the great ships of the ancient world. When sails are used effectively and the helm used appropriately the captain of a ship is able to charter a course. A sailing ship, without sails is nothing more than a floating raft. The sailing ships that does not use, or cannot use its sails will drift. We also know that ships use anchors to lock themselves to the ocean floor, steady their position and to eliminate drift. When the anchor is deployed, the ship becomes steady, immovable and steadfast. An anchor is also a word that has been applied to NLP, and refers to the programming of emotional states. Anchoring is a technique that allows one to experience a feeling or emotion again at will, even after that feeling has left the body. There are many ways of recreating a vivid past emotion, and bringing that emotion back into the body. Anchoring is perhaps the easiest way to perform this processes. Whilst this is a very simple technique, the perfecting of it can and will take a lifetime. For example, Anthony Robbins spends four days teaching and setting up a number of…
A couple of weeks ago I met with a young girl who explained to me that she was in a bit of trouble. She was in trouble with the courts because she had stolen her mother’s car. As I was speaking to this young lady I asked her about the relationship she has with her mother. She explained to me that all her mother cares about is the foster children that she is looking after. I asked her why she stole the car. She was unable to answer this question. I explained to her that I believe that all of us want to be loved and accepted. I then asked her “do you think that you stole the car because you wanted your mothers’ attention? Do you think that you may have done it because deep down you want your mother to love you. She thought about this for a time and then said, “Yes, I guess you are right”. I then asked her how it was working out for her. I asked her if her action had the desired result. The look on her face indicated that her attempts to get her mother to show her love, really did…