Dry Nights,
Bedwetting is a major concern. According to recent studies about 80 percent of children cease wetting the bed by the age of 5. Of the remaining 20 percent some will continue to wet the bed for years. For some bedwetting can continue into the teenage years and even adulthood.
In fact the older the child gets the more need for intervention and psychiatric help and assistance. Experts tell us that the in the absence of a pattern of bladder control, the child will continue to have problems and that these will generally not be resolved without some form of intervention.
Mechanical pads, alarms, psychiatrist, psychologist and other professionals may be relied on to assist.
When you encounter this issue, you should consider the assistance of a life coach. I will tell you why.
The cost of pull ups is very high. Over months and years you could spend thousands of dollars. $$$$$$. The cost of trained medical professional may take weeks or months to slowly work through all the underlying issues associated with the challenge. This too will cost. $$$$$$.
A peak performance life coach will stamp out the issue in one session.
Let me share with you why I believe that a life coach is the best choice.
When I first met one 9 year old boy he appeared to have a low level of confidence. He came and visited my home with his family and we all went swimming. I asked his family to yell the words “I am AWESOME” and then to jump into the pool. I first demonstrated the process and then asked them to join in with me on the second jump.
His younger siblings responded. They jumped into the water and shouted “I am AWESOME”. This other young boy jumped into the pool without saying anything.
I used playful aggression, humour, energy and excitement to persuade him get back out and to jump into the pool and shout the words “I am AWESOME”. It ended up being a bit of a game, but eventually I go him to be involved.
He visited on a number of occasions and went swimming. As time went on he found it easy to say the words “I am AWESOME” and jump into the pool. His confidence began to lift and over the following weeks his dad reported that he was feeling a little happier and a little better about himself.
I learned that he had a bedwetting issue and that he was still wearing pull-ups each night. I learned that this may have been impeding him from feeling a lot happier, and a lot better about himself.
I decided to work with him to resolve this issue.
One day this boy, his father and I went onto a soccer field together. As we walked onto the field I had the intention of assisting him to completely resolve this issue forever. I began by building him up into a peak emotional state. I lead him and his father who was there with us both into excitement. We all jumped and experienced a feeling of euphoria in our bodies.
Next I got him to feel the failure of wetting the bed. I got him to think about the teasing of siblings. I got him to think about how he felt about himself. I asked him to think about what his parents have said to him in the past. I asked him to focus on the types of things he says to himself (self-talk). I asked him how it feels, and to intensify the feelings of failure, disappointment, frustration and anger. He slumped and became very sad. I could see that this issue made him feel pathetic and really was a roadblock to his happiness.
Next I spoke to him about confidence and got him to think about the time that he jumped into the pool with confidence. (I knew that if he was going to conquer this behaviour he needed a strong and powerful surge of confidence in his body).
Once I saw the confidence inside him I had him to yell an incantation about having “dry nights”. He yelled words to the effect of, “I have Dry nights. I have full control of my body. I sleep lightly, wake up and go to the bathroom at night”. (He yelled things like this for a minute or so).
I then got him to imagine that he was winning and succeeding in this challenge. I asked him to close his eyes and I moved with him into the future. It was like a time machine of imagination. We took a step forward and each step represented one dry night. Each step represented him walking out into his future with confidence and pride. Each step he took I asked him to imagine himself succeeding. Each step represented another night where he got to feel proud of himself and happy. (These were his words that he had used earlier that I projected back to him).
We moved 14 steps and this represented 2 weeks of success. 2 weeks of feeling proud and happy. At this point I had him turn around and look at the past two weeks of success. I had him imagine what the world looked like now that this little problem was no longer an issue in his life. I had him think about what others were saying about him now that he was succeeding. I had him think about how he now felt. (At this point he beamed with pride. He was smiling and feeling great). At this point I asked him. Is this what you want? He said yes.
I said louder, “Is this what you want?” He then increased his volume to match mine. “Yes”
I then shouted, “Is this what you want?” He again matched my volume. Squeezed his fists and yelled “YYYEEEEEESSSSSS”.
Here he was, a small boy. Timid, shy, nervous and reserved.
Suddenly he grew. I saw him lift from within and become who he was born to be. Witnessing this growth got me excited and I said to him let’s get excited.
He did not need any encouragement. He was already excited and knew that something inside him was now awake. All three of us jumped with authentic excitement.
Three weeks have now passed and this boy no longer has an issue. This issue was resolved in 20 minutes in the park. He is now free of this challenge and a whole new life awaits him.
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