I have been thinking a lot about values over the last couple of days.

Values are simply judgements about something.  Judgements are split into two categories.  The first is made up of things that you may like.  The second is made of things you may dislike.  The reasons or judgments about why you like or dislike that thing is a key in determining your set of values.

For example;

• You may like exercise.  You may dislike running.
• You may like eating fish.  You may dislike Lamb shanks.
• You may like self-improvement.  You may dislike religion.
• You may like computer games.  You may dislike public speaking.

Our likes and dislikes create feelings, attitudes and beliefs.  These feelings, attitudes and beliefs result in us finding certain attributes or qualities important to us and our life.  As we consider what is important in a certain area of life we are in fact thinking about our values.

One of the best ways of eliciting values from a person is to ask the question.  What is important to you in that area?

As an example if you wanted to know what your physical fitness values were, you might ask yourself the question.  What is important to me in the area of physical health?

Possible answers could include the following.

Longevity, enjoyment, fitness, health, fun, feeling great, looking good, strength, happiness, growth.

I am certain there are many, many more.

Now, often our true values reflect how we spend our time.  We may desire love and relationships to be our highest positive value, and yet spend large amounts of our time at the gymnasium, playing video games, or watching hours of mindless television.

A persons true values are reflected in their thoughts, words and actions.  Our values are pliable and can change throughout our life.  If you are not happy with the life you are currently leading, why not investigate how to firstly identify your true values, and then really take control and prioritise those things in your life that matter most.  Your happiness may depend on it.