Today I had a conversation with a man who was extremely intelligent. His mind is so full of information. He presents well and is doing well in his life and in his family. He is a father and was telling me about himself. He informed me that once he wanted to be a speaker, and realised that he was unable to do this because he lacked confidence. As he was speaking his shoulders rolled forward and I observed this occurring. I asked him if he was confident in his life, and to think about a time he was really confident. He could not think of any right away. I asked if he was confident about being a good father. (He had told me previously that he had a great relationship with his children). To this he answered yes.

After several minutes of conversation about other topics he told me how he works with young people, and that he has been trying to teach these young people about how to develop confidence. He told me that he believed that if he could get them to develop confidence then they could take control of their lives.

I was very interested about what he had said, and I asked him this question. “So you want to teach the youths confidence and yet you lack confidence”. I asked him if he was confident that he could teach the youth confidence. I already knew the answer. He smiled and nodded knowingly.

I explained to him that confidence is an emotion. The emotion of confidence is transferable from one situation to another. I also explained that he cannot teach confidence or lead another person into the state of confidence unless he is within himself feeling confident.

He understood all that I said. I then told him that the confidence of knowing this information is great. Yet unless this information can shift from his mind into his heart, then nothing will change. I also explained that all he needed was a one hour session and I could help he have the confidence he felt that he lacked.

The truth is that this confidence exists already inside him. He just needs to unlock it. Finally I told him, “Your commitment to yourself is to find out who you really are, unlock your incredible self, and unleash that on the world”.

The confident person will find a way to subdue fears and claim the power of victory.