Christmas has just passed and if like myself you feel like you may have overindulged to excess, you may be thinking of dieting or going onto a detox program. As I have been thinking about this over the past few days, the realisation of the ineffectiveness of these types of programs became apparent. Dieting, detoxing and health kicks all have one thing in common. They all have a start date. They also all have an end date. It has a...
Had a profound and wonderful experience with a young woman who had struggled for many years with an eating disorder. This woman stated that when she was about 7 years old she made a decision based on a thoughtless comment made by another person. At this time she decided that she was large, and began living into this belief as a fundamental principle of her life. From that time she had constantly struggled with weight, and this is...
Some time ago my wife and I attended a relationship “strengthening marriage” seminar. After completing the course we explained to a family friend that we did this course. The response was very interesting. This person said, “oh, I did not know that you were having marriage difficulties”. This was an interesting response. When I replied that we were not having problems, the person looked perplexed. The prevalen...
When most people hear the term investing, they immediately think of money. They may think of investing in real estate or shares, or in other ventures. I would like us to consider investing in another way. I have been asked to MC several weddings and functions and each time I have fully invested of myself. On one occasion I was asked to help run a live auction. This was a very new prospect, as I had never run a live auction. I therefo...
I spoke with a teenage girl who stated that she is always fighting and getting into yelling arguments with others, including her mother, her cousin, and other people in her life. Her justification for being confrontational is that she hates others telling her what to do. This is an issue for her now in her life, yet in the future it could also be an issue if she someday works for a boss. The reality is that most of us need t...
Who does not like cakes? A good cake is very desirable. It will tantalize the taste buds, put a smile on your face and create a party in your mouth. Social gatherings, parties and events all have one thing in common. People gather around to chat and enjoy a slice of your favourite cake, filled with the sugary goodness. It is a compelling and almost irresistible thing to watch others indulge in delicious sweets and goodies. What...
I have done previous posts on matching and mirroring and in order to appreciate this post it would be a good idea for you to check out former posts. I also have a video on my site in which I give two examples in building rapport using matching and mirroring. Sending a text message or email is a less effective communication strategy. This seems to be the preferred way for young people to communicate. The reason this is less effectiv...
My father in Law took occasion to share with me some sad news. He told me of a man that he had known personally, who was now dead. He had committed suicide. He explained to me that this death was a shock to everyone who knew him. His reasons for committing suicide were unclear and the family was left to deal with the results. His wife was distraught over the act, and was left to question the relationship, the family left behind a...
As a life coach it is imperative to be in PEAK condition. By creating immense happiness in one’s own life, we inspire others to create it in theirs. I am the happiest that I have ever been in my life, and this is because I constantly create a flood of positive emotions in my own body. The old saying is true that “you cannot lift another soul until you are standing on higher ground than he is”. In order to lift another perso...
I was working with a client that was struggling with feeling resentment in her life. I could see that there was work to do in establishing shared values, however for now it was necessary to create a kinesthetic strategy that would enable her to at least deal better on an emotional level. We worked together to create the following neurological bridge. There were four components. Resentment Active understanding Enduring patience Lovin...
