Breathing Life - Joshua Roy's Blog

A couple of weeks ago I met with a young girl who explained to me that she was in a bit of trouble.  She was in trouble with the courts because she had stolen her mother’s car.  As I was speaking to this young lady I asked her about the relationship she has with her mother.  She explained to me that all her mother cares about is the foster children that she is looking after. I asked her why she stole the car.  She was unable to answer this question. I explained to her that I believe that all of us want to be loved and accepted.  I then asked her “do you think that you stole the car because you wanted your mothers’ attention?  Do you think that you may have done it because deep down you want your mother to love you. She thought about this for a time and then said, “Yes, I guess you are right”.  I then asked her how it was working out for her.  I asked her if her action had the desired result.  The look on her face indicated that her attempts to get her mother to show her love, really did…

In 2010 I looked at my stomach and thought it was time to regain my 6 pack abs.  I worked out like crazy and certainly this made a little difference however that little podgy belly continued to hang on.  I was 34 years old and thought to myself that this stomach was there to stay.  After many hours of exercises I realised that there was really nothing more coming off my stomach so I gave up, accepting that I would always have a fat belly.  After all I was heading toward my mid to late 30’s and how could I possibly have the fitness levels, or physique that I had as a younger man. Resigned to this fact I gave up on working out and slimness and instead began to bulk.  I decided to do weight lifting and to put on some muscle and size.  I greatly increased my food intake.  After doing this for a couple of years I had increased the size of my arms, chest and back considerably.  I also increased the size of my belly.  Then I got an injury on my right bicep and was unable to train for a time. I felt tired and…

Today I had a conversation with a man who was extremely intelligent. His mind is so full of information. He presents well and is doing well in his life and in his family. He is a father and was telling me about himself. He informed me that once he wanted to be a speaker, and realised that he was unable to do this because he lacked confidence. As he was speaking his shoulders rolled forward and I observed this occurring. I asked him if he was confident in his life, and to think about a time he was really confident. He could not think of any right away. I asked if he was confident about being a good father. (He had told me previously that he had a great relationship with his children). To this he answered yes. After several minutes of conversation about other topics he told me how he works with young people, and that he has been trying to teach these young people about how to develop confidence. He told me that he believed that if he could get them to develop confidence then they could take control of their lives. I was very interested about what…