Repatterning my own brain in the area of finances

April 22, 2016

The last 2 years have been the toughest financial setbacks of my life.  Prior to this I was moving forward with a focus on saving and securing a financial future.  In other words I was saving for a rainy day.

 

When we have financial setbacks there is a tendency to feel like a failure.  To feel that our positive efforts are not yielding fruit.  When large amounts of effort yield little or no fruit, we begin to wonder if it was all worth it.  There is a tendency to throw in the towel and kick up our heels and just give up.  The storyteller informs us that if a tree does not yield fruit, it is good for nothing, and should be hewn down and cast into the fire.

 

Many people work extremely hard when starting a new business.  Some work 60 plus hours per week.  They will make huge sacrifices in an attempt to establish and run a successful business.  The biggest concern is the fact that 90% of businesses fail within the first 5 years of operation.

 

For me, I worked out that I would earn almost as much money on welfare, as I am currently earning from my full time job.  This is due to tax, my wife’s health condition, child support, loss of shift allowance, and other considerations.  This says a lot about the welfare system in this country.  I understand it we have the best welfare system in the world.  Our welfare system is incredible and extremely helpful to those who NEED it.

 

Now, what is interesting is that when we are losing money or going backwards in our finances, the tendency is to become upset and despondent.  Anger, frustration and other negative emotions can rob us of our ability to enjoy the experiences of daily life.  Thoughts of lack and limitation crowd our mind, and all we think about as we lay awake in bed at night are the negative and worrying things in our life.  The reticular activating system of the brain will filter out all the pleasant and joyful experiences that surround us every day, and we look for someone or something to blame for our situation.  At the most severe end of the scale is suicide.

 

The interesting fact is that the last 6 months of my life have been full of joy.  The old me, would have worried incessantly about lack in finances.  Yet, while working with my life coach I discovered that I am ok.  In fact, I am better than ok.  I am in the best psychological position in my life.  Happiness really is less about money and more about psychology.  I have also discovered this great truth.  “Do more for other people than anybody else does”.  And “If I help others get what they want, I will surely get what I want”.  I have discovered that service and giving of myself to others has created a change within myself.  The rewards are not financial, however the birth of AccessWorldSeminars is not about making money.  It is about helping others to Access the joy, happiness and excitement of life while in the midst of turmoil.

 

I also did a life coaching session on myself.  I saw the two parts of who I was around money.  One of the parts looked like a safe with keys and locks, and covered with chains.  (This represented the part of me that wanted to keep my money safe and secure.  The part of me that wanted to save for a rainy day).  There was another part of me showed up as myself skydiving.  (This was the wild and reckless part of me and spending.  This part of me seemed to be all about creating the experiences of joy).

 

I also learned what money represented to me.  The money in the safe, and the money that it costs to skydive, was symbolic of success.  My highest positive valued in the area of money was success.  I realised that money is only a tool.  It is only a means to an end.  Money is just a way of keeping score of how I am going, or how successful I am being.  I realised that success is not only the accumulation of money, it is the use of it to create excitement in the lives of my family, friends and others.  I realised that success is the real value, and money is simply a means of attainment.

 

With that understanding, I can go significantly backwards in my financial pursuits at this time, and still have a large smile on my face.  This is because my course is straight and true, and I am diligently moving toward success, despite a declining bank balance.

 

Another thought.  My life has become valuable to those who look to me as an example.  There are those who believe in what I am doing.  I am told by many to keep doing what I am doing.  To keep pushing against the boundary conditions of my thinking.  I just imagine what is possible to one that believes.

 

My friend Darius said, “The things that you have done to me have changed me forever”.

My friend Kerry said, “What you did was incredible”.

My friend Darren said, “It has changed me.  This stuff is incredible”.

My friend Joanne said, “I want to sign up for life coaching now before you become too expensive”.

My friend Reece said, “You are amazing, better than any psychologist”.

My friend Kath said, “That is incredible.  I can now look at everyone with fresh eyes”.

My friend Tamsyn said, “Tell me a story.  I love to hear what you have been up to”.

My friend Leonie said, “I just love speaking with you”.

My friend Diana said, “I am so jealous of other people getting more sessions than me”.

 

I cannot explain to anyone the transformation that has taken place within me.  I barely understand it myself.  All I know is that I have an unquenchable desire to help others to rise above the challenges of life that encroach upon them.  I am committed to lifting the minds and hearts of anyone who has a desire to cast off the shackles of fear, laziness and limited self-belief.

 

I visit with people and they tell me their problem.  I immediately see the solution.  Then, together we rip out the addiction, the habit or the limiting belief that has kept them ‘boxed in’ by the boundary conditions of their thinking.

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