The sad state of loneliness

March 5, 2016

As we travel through life each of us has to deal with feelings of loneliness.  These feeling may result from loss of a loved one, separation from friends or a situation in which a person may feel disconnected from people in their lives.

Relationships are vital to our feeling connected with others and enjoying a happy and productive life.  It is interesting to me that some men and women comment that they do not have any friends.  They do not really know how to connect with other people, or how to establish a long term relationship.   Others can connect with other people in the short term, however they feel like they cannot maintain a long term relationship.  For yet others there seems to be no necessity in their mind to connect with others.  There is no driving passion compelling them to have rich friendships.

Wherever you are on your journey in life, if there are ever feelings of loneliness, I believe that this feeling is prompted by a yearning in our soul to have deep and rich relationships.

I have learned about really connecting with the people in our lives.  What I have recently become aware of is that experiences of mind and emotion allow us to connect with other people in a profound way.  I have developed great friendships with others due to awareness of what is required.

Firstly I have learned that acts of service solidify friendship.  When you give of what you are to assist another person and do so freely, without any expectation of reward, this act of service is its own reward.

Secondly, in order to build a deep friendship with another person requires that both experience situations that emotionally bind them together.  This can take a long process to accomplish ordinarily, however with the tools that I have been using, the creation of emotionally binding experiences can be manufactured in the imagination.  This is occurring many times daily.  These emotionally binding experiences are being created by utilising several life coaching processes that I am using.  These interactions with others is yielding deep friendships and binding relationship, in a way that I have never experienced before.

Up until September 2015, not including family I had limited true friends.  Whilst I have had friends in my life in the past, due to my current life and choices I had lost contact with some of these friends.

Great friends may be difficult to come by for some and for others almost impossible.  The saying is true that in order to have a friend, you must first “be a friend”.

Something recently changed inside me.  I really began to care.  I mean really care.  There was a desire to actually help others to discover how amazing “they” were.  I could suddenly see a way for me to bring healing and joy to the lives of others.  I could see how genuine interest in others and a desire to serve was literally transforming life every day.

The antidote for loneliness is love.

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